Tuesday, June 18, 2013

Photo Bomb Tuesday




            I have a little time today so I thought I’d catch y’all up on the Tide through the magic of cell

phone photos. The following should bring us up to speed on some of the more major moments over

the past few months. Enjoy Photo Bomb Tuesday



 
     The Daddy-Daughter Dance or in this case, Step-Daddy Daughter Dance…..

I was flabbergasted when Roni asked me and we had a blast. Trying to be smart, I figured we’d show up and Roni would take off with her friends. Nope. The Duchess insisted on dancing with me as seen here. Pretty powerful stuff that night.

The best part of the night was towards the end when they played Louis Armstrong’s What a Wonderful World when the speakers blew. All of the Daddys in the house picked up immediately and we sang to our daughters. Not many dry eyes in the house…..


 
 
 

 

                                    Mary and Christine’s Big Gay Wedding

            My little sister got married to her long time girlfriend and it was not only beautiful but one of the funner weddings I’ve ever been to. SIlly hats were required for the reception

            My smart alec wife requested on the invitation that our wedding meals be served on “special” plates so this is what the lovely Mrs. Christine came up with. They actually microwave quite well.





     Mary and Christine are both librarians at Yale so it was an obvious choice they’d get married in

the Noah Webster House. Here Mary, Kaz (the minister), and myself are wearing some bonnets they

make the school kids wear when touring to get the early Americana feel.



Rehearsal in Mary /Christine's loft
 


Wearing her Pop's Lucky Cuff Links he wore to every IBEW St Pats Brunch
 

Mary's Angels
 


Jude and his Black Belt Buds at his Elementary Talent Show
 
 
Kim got the chance to interview the Grand Empress herself, The Lady Chablis for Savannah magazine. The two of them hit it off and we had a remarkable evening at Club One courtesy of The Lady. She was kind enough to sign my copy that The Big Guy and Mom gave me years ago.
 

 

 

Jude made Kim his first perfect omelette for Mother's Day
 



Roni's End of the Year Art Show for Garrison.
 
 The Lucas is one of the older theaters in Savannah and has a great film series throughout the year. This was their viewing of Star Trek II: Wrath of Khan. Jude and I went in costume and took second. I’d like to point out Jude is wearing my old Star Trek Kirk Shirt from elementary school.  

Roni also grabbed my glasses while eating ice cream at Leopold’s. I’m startng to see a lot of Kim in Roni’s personality as she grows up. I’m in a lot of trouble. lol


Roni has left the building
 



 
 
Kim and fam as she graduates with her MFA in writing from SCAD. Proud Day!





Well, that was the last few months courtesy of my cell phone. Hopefully, I can a better blogger and write more regularly. Now if you’ll excuse me, I have a pool calling out to me and sun worshiping to attend to.



 
 


Monday, June 17, 2013

In Which I Admit To My Elephant in the Blog


       Neil Gaiman is one of my favorite authors. David Dowd turned me on to him waaay back in 1989 during one of our infamous stints as camp counselors at Camp Glisson. David had started reading some comic called Sandman. One or two issues and I was sucked into Gaiman’s writing where stories were told against the backdrop of dreams. One of my favorite supporting characters was Lucien the Librarian of the Dream Realm. Lucien was responsible for sorting and keeping not just all the stories ever told but also those that were “dreamed off.”  Needless to say, Lucien had a pretty big library complete with what David and I referred to as the Stephen King Wing.
 

 
 
            I share this because it sort of sets up my line of thinking. My last blog was in March and so much has happened since then. Loads of rich materials for me to mine for some great stories have passed back and forth in front of me. Don’t think I haven’t sat there and tried to weave a few new stories to share. Over the past two weeks, I have my share of blogs for Lucien to keep track of. There are at least three unfinished blogs stored on my jump drive. Frankly, I have worries this one won’t make it either.

            At first, I just chalked it up to lack of focus. No one has ever accused Robby Richardson of being highly focused and motivated. After that, I just figured I was swamped between school, getting the kids to where they needed to be, dialysis needs, and preparing for Mary’s wedding.  That wasn’t it either.

            My problem is actually quite ironic in that I had always hoped my blog would gather a small following but I never anticipated it being used against me or my family. I started this blog several months before I met my now lovely talented wife Kim. She also writes an outstanding blog. For the first time in my life, I really enjoyed the actual process of writing and then sharing which helped me to grow. Historically, when I write, I come up with a topic and if it sticks in my head for a bit, I just sit down and try to write as honestly as possible.

            Many moons ago, I wrote about an individual who kept popping up into our lives in a non-productive manner and I used this blog twice as a forum to vent my frustrations. In spite of never actually naming this individual or using any real information that could be linked to him, this leads to Kim in court mediation. The bottom line means Kim has agreed to no longer use this individual’s name in her blog and I have also followed suit. (Ironically, I have never actually used his name but stuck to the nick name, “The Lurker”.)

            This is the hard part to talk about. First, I don’t like to be told what to do especially when expressing myself. I had considered dropping the blog for quite some time. Truth be told, I was actually a small part of the equation and most of this court stuff was focused on Kim. I think my part was more of an afterthought by the lurker so I have tried to support my wife by not rocking the boat.

            It may sound odd but it’s hard to write in your own voice while second guessing all that you write. I’d ask myself as I type, “If I type this, can it be turned back on Kim and myself?” I also found myself trying to find clever ways to strike back. “Look at my beautiful family,” I’d think. “See what you missed out on?” But as I’d write, I began to see how this thinly veiled form of contempt began to poison my writing. I wasn’t just playing the Lurker’s game but allowing myself to get sucked in. I tried to write about other things going on but somehow I always returned to a dig at the Lurker.

            You never saw any of those blogs. Those guys have gone the way of the dodo. I’m glad I never printed those. I told some pretty neat stories like going to the Daddy-Daughter Dance with Roni, Kim’s Mother Day, Free Comic Book Day with Jude and his cousins, and my sister’s awesome wedding. Yet as special as these moments were to me, the writing was tainted by my constant need to thumb my nose at the Lurker as he frustrated my wife and upset our statjus quo. That’s not right and I freely admit it. It’s also not right to you as a reader. I have tried to share anecdotes about my life and the joys of being a step-dad and I allowed pettiness cloud my judgment.

            I don’t apologize for the previous entries. They were written honestly and from my heart. I didn’t lie or do those original blogs to call anyone out. There was no malice involved. It was an honest peek into the Life of Robby on that particular day. I won’t allow myself to say I’ll never write another entry like those again either. If I do, I do promise that it’s done because it’s a relevant situation and not a way to get a dig in. It’s taken me a few months to get here but I’d like to think by calling out the elephant in the room, I can move ahead as a writer and a storyteller. From here on out, I plan to keep writing without fear of reprisal and more importantly,not using my stories as a weapon.

            I’d also like to reiterate something I wrote a long time ago. My hand is always outstretched to work together, Mr. Lurker. For the sake and well being of those two little beings that I love dearly, I’ll gladly put myself out on a limb and always will. We don't have to agree but when we bicker, it's the kids who pay the price. Meet me halfway, dude....
 
 

            Now if you’ll excuse me folks, it’s my first day of summer break and I have a young lady I promised to take to lunch with her mother. Summer is here and it’s time to make it count…..

Sunday, March 17, 2013

I am Helping Out a Friend


            Today’s installment of the Tide is to help out a buddy of mine waaaaay back from my old Young Harris Days. John Trotter and I met through the outdoor club the Big Guy ran called Quantrek. We were never all that close but I was always impressed with his creativity and his good nature.

            A few months ago I read on Facebook how Trotter had entered a contest that could possibly feature his artwork on a cup to be sold at all University of Georgia sporting events. What made it even cooler to me was the twist. The artwork must somehow represent the style of Jack Davis.
Always a favorfite
 

            Jack Davis was always a favorite artist of mine and introduced to me through the pages of MAD Magazine.  While writing this quickly, I discovered how Davis went to UGA on the GI BIll so it owuld make sense he'd do some artwork for his old alma mater. During the 80s, back when the dawgs were sugar-coated, Davis did a series of classic posters. I can remember cutting it out one out of the Sunday edition of the Atlanta Journal-COnstitution. It featured UGA in football fear and I proudly taped it to my wall.
 

            I am biased and make no bones about it but if you take a look at the other contestants, they don’t hold a candle to Trotter’s work. The winner is based on popular vote so help a brother out and click. It only takes a moment. I promise.

http://georgiamuseum.org/artforeveryone/view-entry/dawg-sports

Wednesday, March 13, 2013

Happy Pi Day!!!!!!!


I am Ron Balthazar


            Sorry been out a bit. From here on out, I’ll always refer to Feb 2013 as the “sick month” where my flu became pneumonia. If you have never had pneumonia, you are missing out. It’s a treat.

            The next few blogs, I am going to attempt to connect one theme to the next. His one has been brewing since my last one but this afternoon, I realized it was time. Roni has gotten me hooked on Pandora. She had Chess Club this afternoon and we were driving home when I heard this song which took me back to my Camp Glisson days.


            Camp Glisson was several camps within one. We had the typical camp which was called the Village, there was a Pioneer with a rustic setting way out in the woods and limited plumbing, and of course, Sparrowwood.

            Sparrowwood has probably had the largest influence on how my life has gone. It was a keep set up for special needs kids. Back in the 80s, I can remember seeing their campers in the dining hall as they would eat downstairs and also occasionally passing them as they left the pool. We did have Chapel with them and from this, I realized as a teen to overcome my fears regarding handicapped people.

            Around 1987 or so, I was working as a counselor at the Pioneer and Village Camps. This would be a life changing summer because I would cross paths with new staff member, Ron Balthazar. And I hated him.

            Ron was a few years older than us 19 year old counselors. He was part of the Emory University crowd which worked at camp (Camp had several college factions: Young Harris, Reinhardt, UGA, etc). He was one of the new Sparrowwood counselors but because he was older, the upper staff tended to include him which drove us younger folks nuts. Eventually, Ron was running S-wood as the director. What I mistook for arrogance in my younger years was actually maturity, Ron over the next few years would also work his way to upper staff something which ignited much jealously among us but especially me.

            Ron was very musically inclined so it was a natural choice that the camp manager, Jimmy Moor, would have Ron deal with the sound system and especially the end of the week slide shows. These were tasks I coveted and took personally when I was shut out.

            Ron had a vibrant personality and was a natural in front of a crowd. He was infamous with helping with staff meetings, skits, and announcements. Anytime you got a room full of college aged counselors together in one room and away from the campers, we’d go to town talking. I can still hear Ron’s voice over the mike in a smug yet silly, “Young people. Young people. Settle down.”

            I used to hate that and can remember taking offense. One of my close friends, Valary, and I used make fun of Ron when he’d say that. Eventually, my brazenness got the better of me and I started responding, “Old man with a microphone.”
Val is the cute blonde top row middle, Sadly I am the one w/ a mullet
 

            I did not like Ron and I have no doubts that Ron was not thrilled with my existence either. It stayed like that for a few years as we both ran in different social cliques. Fortunately, it changed during the summer of 1992.

            I began spending a lot of time at Sparrowwood. Ron was a huge proponent of mixing their campers with the Village and Pioneer camps so many activities like camp outs, swim parties, and my favorite, the Thursday Night Sp-wood Dance Party. These were some awesome times and made me realize that I worked well with the handicapped and would lead to my future career.

            By the end of the summer, Ron and gained a bit of respect for each other. 1992 was my last summer of a seven year run. The very last Dance Party was very special. SO special that our Camp Manager the late, great Bob Cagle had lent me a tux jacket which country singer, Hoyt Axton once wore. At the end, it hit me hard.
1992 Elementary Living Group w/ Marie
 

            Camp was a big deal for me. As a camper, I loved Glisson because it was the one week during the year where I could and fit in. As a counselor, I learned a lot about how to work with people, be creative, deal with stress, and got the chance to put back a little of what I had gotten from Camp. One of my favorite memories comes from this night when Ron came up and shook my hand.  Ron thanked me for all the help I had done with them over the summer and the enthusiasm I brought.

 I was floored. Here was a guy I had spent the past 5 years loathing. Now we both were on equal ground and found respect. Ron was a good guy and I missed many years of a potentially amazing friendship. My immaturity and insecurities prevented from seeing this guy as the amazing individual he is.

In my last post, I talked about the autistic kid which led me to think a lot about those Glisson days. Even though I didn’t write much in February, I spent much time comparing/contrasting my past and present. When the realization hit me that I have become much alike the very person I once despised, I had to laugh. Because of my work with Ron and Sp-wood, I now have a Masters in Special Education and work with high school kids on a variety levels. I have become quite musical myself even though I try to let others drown out the guitar play. On occasion, I even have caught myself shushing students with a very familiar,”Young people. Young People.”

I hope this blog somehow gets forwarded to Ron Balthazar. I hope he understands that a much more mature Robby Richardson wishes he could go back in time to shut up his younger self. Most of all, I hope Ron knows that I thank him for being in my life at just the right time to have enough influence to get me where I am today. Thanks, dude. Knowing you has made a real difference in my life.


Wednesday, February 20, 2013

I am Batman....


            During that first Christmas year before last, Jude and I had a Guys day and we shopped for Roni and Kim. Eventually, we ended up at Wal-Mart and looking at the Angry Birds T-shirts. Jude pointed out they had those new hoodies that looked like superheroes. Before I knew it, I was the proud owner of a gray and black Batman hoodie. It has never really grown on me but its super soft and warm enough to help me navigate my days through the halls of my chilly high school.


            I have been on a kick wearing the Batman hoodie with one of my short sleeve Hawaiian shirts lately. The fleecy feel of the jacket has been quite comfortable as I have been tolerating this bizarre Savannah weather and getting over being sick. Frankly, I never really thought anyone noticed. Today I learned just how wrong I was.

            I have this more profoundly disabled kid in a few of my classes this semester and can see some potential issues so I decided to drop the MID room to let his case manager, Jason, know and possibly plan ahead. There were a few other fellow students in the MID room as I chatted with the teacher. I had barely begun to say anything when I felt the wind almost get knocked out of me and I was in the grips a giant bear hug.

            “I love you, Batman!” was ringing in my ears.

            I have just met our newest autistic student, Michael. He likes Batman. A lot.

            “Michael, let go of Mr. Richardson and go back to your seat,” says Jason. The steel grip does not loosen. I look down and can’t help but start chuckling. Memories of my days of working with Sparrow wood special needs campers begin to flood my memories. I wrap my loose arm around Michael and shoulder hug back. Teacher Robby kicks in.

            “Michael, bud, you gotta let go. Can’t breathe.” I get out. He releases me and still grinning huge. I smile back and respond,” Let’s do this right and like men do, sir.”I offer my hand and introduce myself.

“Hi, I am Mr. Richardson and I teach here. You are?”

“I am Michael and I love superheroes especially Batman!” states Michael with continued enthusiasm.

Still smiling, I say, “Dude, I hear you but first things first. Guys just don’t run up and hug other guys without warning. Guys do hug but they either know each other first or they ask. We cool?” Somewhere in the back of my mind I can hear Ron Balthazar from Sparrow wood teaching the “ask before hugging” rule back at Camp. I laugh to myself.

Michal looks at me trying to figure out if he is in trouble so I am careful to keep smiling. A few long seconds and I and I try to steer the conversation back to my objective.

            “Dude can you give me a minute with the teachers?” and Michael promptly pretends to pass out to my surprise. Jason begins to applaud and mention how the Oscar is going to Michael. I go on about my business and eventually Michael gets up and surprise, joins me.

After I wrap up my teacher business, Michael is not done with me. He has many items to share and we begin a long, awesome conversation regarding more superheroes, web shooters, and a mutual love affair with Wookies. We are both laughing and smiling. I like this kid. A lot.

Bitching about teaching has become a favorite past time these days especially my lack of feeling appreciated. This afternoon reminded me that I don’t have to always feel that way. Sometimes out of the blue, someone or something new can pop into the scene and remind me of my purpose and just what I have to offer. As a teacher, I wear a lot of hats. I am a counselor, scheduler, mediator, listener, cheer leader, traffic conductor, instructor, supervisor, and occasionally and educator. Today, I inadvertently got to fulfill a life-long dream of being a super hero so I guess I get to add that to the list now too.

Who am I?

I’m Batman…..